QU: How Can I Help Others When I Can't Heal Myself?

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READER'S QU: Lisa in Australia

Hi Ronda

  

I came across your web page 3 years ago, when I left a stressful job that I  knew was not my path in life.  Over the last 3 years I have dabbled in different jobs and now find myself back again in the same spot with myself! 

  

I have forgiven and let go of a lot of my past, but as I sit here today I realize I am not able to let go and forgive myself.  

I desparately want to work with abused women and children and help them to rebuild their lives and have wanted to do this work all my life.  However I have held back because I knew unless I am able to heal myself I am a fake and also I was worried I would be projecting my stuff onto them.

  

Is there anything that you can suggest that can assist me in starting the process of forgiving myself?  

  

RONDA'S REPLY:

Dear Lisa,

Thank you for your email and I am touched to know my SoulArts work has helped you along your journey.

Here's what I have learned in my life:

You can't "wait til you are healed" to be a good healer. A good healer is honest and vulnerable to his/her own ongoing healing too. We never finish. It's a synergy. I learn and heal as much from my clients as they do in working with me.  

As for projection, yes,that is something always to watch for. To be a healer is not to "fix another" but to be SO aware, that you are always getting yourself out of the way or acknowledging that it may be projection!.  SEE?

Self-Forgiveness is a process of inner Seeing too. You could ask yourself this:  

 "What am I actually saying to Life/God/Source by NOT forgiving myself?"  

In a way, not to forgive oneself is just another "tricky way" to avoid the courage of doing what we're called to do. It's actually a form of "withholding". (You might watch my "nevernothere.com" interview (second half is more to the point) and you'll get a feel for this I think.)

You have to be willing to "be human" to decide to love yourself, even with your foibles and failures... To not be willing is what?   Investigate that for a while and then offer something up to what you see...

  blessings

  ronda

  
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If you refuse to get involved in something you love because you feel you are not worthy or ready, what are you really saying to God/Self/Life by that choice? ....Look & See :)